I am finally home and I had distribute gifts to my mom and aunt..The Selendangs Remember? They loved it. Mom was greedy and wanted all of it. I told her to distribute it and if she liked it so much, i can always go there and buy again..next time i buy 30-40! hahaa...
It was also my brother's birthday today and the poor guy had to go back to camp today. A bit sad and it was obvious in his face but reality check, we all should not feel sorry but should feel proud that he is serving the country!
My grandma even suggested that we should carry the bag for him much to my horror! haha..I tell everyone not to do that lest we embarrased him. I only offered to pay for the cab ride but he refused. (good guy!)
As the year coming to an end based on gregorian calender, today is the last day of the Muslim calender year. Tomorrow is the beginning of the Muslim Year.
To All Muslims, Maal Hijrah and I hope that all of you will have a blessed year ahead. Insya Allah.
Hugs
Edz
Sunday, December 28, 2008
Piccies!!
Some Piccies that was taken in KL. The first few are the view from my room at KL Hilton.
See how much weight i put! hahaa...
Credit goes to Joey for sending me the pictures. He even burn a CD for me.. Thank you!!! :)
Wednesday, December 24, 2008
Suria KLCC
A trip suggested by Jesz which took me by surprise.
I have always thought that he is not a fan of the public transport and when he suggested, i readily agreed and keep all opinions to myself. :)
We left home about 11am and uncle (Jesz's dad) drove us to Taman Bahagia Station. From there we took the train down to KLCC.
I have always thought that he is not a fan of the public transport and when he suggested, i readily agreed and keep all opinions to myself. :)
We left home about 11am and uncle (Jesz's dad) drove us to Taman Bahagia Station. From there we took the train down to KLCC.
At KLCC, I did not take any photos but i did make a round tour of the shops. Very expensive wor..might as well buy from SG (even after discounts) :)
However I bought a brooch for my mom. I like a silver brooch from a shop that I went to in Royal Selangor (but it was not Royal Selangor) but i find that paying RM500.00 for it was a bit extravagant and i know mom will wear it only occasionally (perhaps next time if i earn maybe $50K per month!)
Then we bought Dunkin Donuts! I am disappointed that there were no more munchkins being sold! Bangau kan???
End up we bought the normal donuts for like 5 get 1 free for RM11.50.
Oh one more thing, Jesz bought me to Madam Kwan. A fine restaurant (very noisy though) serving local food but with high price. Not as pricey as Hilton KL Nasi Lemak (RM 50.00 for a plate).
I had the Nasi Bojari and Jesz had the Nasi Lemak.
I regret not trying the assam laksa though!
After that we reach home and eat and tido. What else is there if you are on "vacation"?
PutraJaya, Sunway & Midvalley.
Joey was kind enough to offer to take me out yesterday.
He drove to his area first to get my jeans altered before driving to Putrajaya for phototaking.
I remembered going to Putrajaya when it first opened but the land at that time was still barren and not much of greeneries.
That has changed. It was still as hot as ever though :)
From Putrajaya, he drove to Sunway for me to shop (again). I am a fussy shopper. Who doesn't like cheap bargains right?
Hence I bought another 3 pairs of shirt and it all cost me less than SGD 80!
After walking miles in Sunway, we proceed to Midvalley for dinner. He gave me a treat at this cafe - Little Penang Cafe.
My opinion? - Food takes good and affordable :)
After Midvalley, i had to get Ramly Burger for Jesz who wanna have it for supper.
Found it and reached home by 9.40pm!
It was really pitch dark outside his home..no wonder he sms me asking me where am I....
Oh well, by the time i reached, it was raining heavily...oh well.. :)
Thank you to Joey for bringing me around.. :)
He drove to his area first to get my jeans altered before driving to Putrajaya for phototaking.
I remembered going to Putrajaya when it first opened but the land at that time was still barren and not much of greeneries.
That has changed. It was still as hot as ever though :)
From Putrajaya, he drove to Sunway for me to shop (again). I am a fussy shopper. Who doesn't like cheap bargains right?
Hence I bought another 3 pairs of shirt and it all cost me less than SGD 80!
After walking miles in Sunway, we proceed to Midvalley for dinner. He gave me a treat at this cafe - Little Penang Cafe.
My opinion? - Food takes good and affordable :)
After Midvalley, i had to get Ramly Burger for Jesz who wanna have it for supper.
Found it and reached home by 9.40pm!
It was really pitch dark outside his home..no wonder he sms me asking me where am I....
Oh well, by the time i reached, it was raining heavily...oh well.. :)
Thank you to Joey for bringing me around.. :)
Tuesday, December 23, 2008
Weekend Update
Dear Readers,
Today is my 5th day of my vacation in Kuala Lumpur. I managed to shop till I drop and I think I have more to go! hahaaaaaaaaaaa...
Over the weekends i got myself
1. 2 pairs of shoes
2. 13 selendangs/tudungs
3. 2 shirts
4. a jeans
It is not easy to look for something that I like though. I am wondering what's with the dark colour shirts lately. Last year was more bright but this year seems so bleak :(
Anyway I think I want to go to The Curve later and check things out. Perhaps there are more choices there.
Talking about choices - I walked the entire One Utama (New and Old Wing) From 1 pm to 6 pm and only got myself jeans (Hhaha)
Wish me luck for my next trip today.
Hugs
Edz
Today is my 5th day of my vacation in Kuala Lumpur. I managed to shop till I drop and I think I have more to go! hahaaaaaaaaaaa...
Over the weekends i got myself
1. 2 pairs of shoes
2. 13 selendangs/tudungs
3. 2 shirts
4. a jeans
It is not easy to look for something that I like though. I am wondering what's with the dark colour shirts lately. Last year was more bright but this year seems so bleak :(
Anyway I think I want to go to The Curve later and check things out. Perhaps there are more choices there.
Talking about choices - I walked the entire One Utama (New and Old Wing) From 1 pm to 6 pm and only got myself jeans (Hhaha)
Wish me luck for my next trip today.
Hugs
Edz
Thursday, December 18, 2008
Distributing the gifts
Today, everyone seems happy to get their gifts.
Also i bade farewell to dear Adeline. Her last day will be the 19th December 2008...it's so sad but i guess all that is well will ends well.
I hope she will get a good job and a great future ahead for her!
I received a "hamper" of sorts from Yang,Yati,Raymond(s) and Adeline for Xmas.. :) well when i give out it is not because I am expecting anything but rather to mark the occasion for xmas. It is more of a cultural thingy as they always wish us well for both Hari Raya's so i thought since Xmas is the spirit of giving, I gave to what i can afford. :)
I cleared as much as I can..for those that I can't i guess have to wait till i am back.. hehe :)
I am sorry if i cant update much while I am away..but i will try to as soon as i can with wonderful and nice pictures.
Till then..enjoy the holidays
Edz
Also i bade farewell to dear Adeline. Her last day will be the 19th December 2008...it's so sad but i guess all that is well will ends well.
I hope she will get a good job and a great future ahead for her!
I received a "hamper" of sorts from Yang,Yati,Raymond(s) and Adeline for Xmas.. :) well when i give out it is not because I am expecting anything but rather to mark the occasion for xmas. It is more of a cultural thingy as they always wish us well for both Hari Raya's so i thought since Xmas is the spirit of giving, I gave to what i can afford. :)
I cleared as much as I can..for those that I can't i guess have to wait till i am back.. hehe :)
I am sorry if i cant update much while I am away..but i will try to as soon as i can with wonderful and nice pictures.
Till then..enjoy the holidays
Edz
Kuala Lumpur
Thinking about it, it is exactly almost a year since my trip to Shah Alam. A lot of memories came flooding back to me.
In fact, I intend to revisit the places that I went a year ago apart from going through the malls in Kuala Lumpur.
Sometimes, in life you gain new friends you lose old friends.
Oh..speaking about that, may i appeal to this someone who still has my picture in his blog to kindly remove my picture since I am no longer listed in your life nor you are listed in mine?
What has passed has passed. I really would like to move on from it.
It's nice to know that at one point, you were friends with me and enemies with someone else and the tables are turned again and its the opposite now happens..so be it :)
I am ok with that and I m glad it didnt continue further.
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So now at mom's place and just entertained my aunt and cousins who came by to seek advise on a cuzzie's result.
I gave as much advise as I can and my sister contribute as much as she can and they left about 11.30pm.
I do hope that things will turn out well for this family.
May Allah Bless them always.
In fact, I intend to revisit the places that I went a year ago apart from going through the malls in Kuala Lumpur.
Sometimes, in life you gain new friends you lose old friends.
Oh..speaking about that, may i appeal to this someone who still has my picture in his blog to kindly remove my picture since I am no longer listed in your life nor you are listed in mine?
What has passed has passed. I really would like to move on from it.
It's nice to know that at one point, you were friends with me and enemies with someone else and the tables are turned again and its the opposite now happens..so be it :)
I am ok with that and I m glad it didnt continue further.
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So now at mom's place and just entertained my aunt and cousins who came by to seek advise on a cuzzie's result.
I gave as much advise as I can and my sister contribute as much as she can and they left about 11.30pm.
I do hope that things will turn out well for this family.
May Allah Bless them always.
Piccies - Personal Gifts
I think someone will recognise the last picture very well :) The 2nd pic belongs to someone and the first pic - is mine! wakakkaka..
Thank you Jesz for that Christmas gift!
The Last Week
I am sooo looking forward to this week!
Why? Because Friday will be the day I will leave from Singapore to Kuala Lumpur.
It seems to be a short week though. As I type out this blog, it is Thursday already - my last day at office.
I was out from Monday to Wednesday evenings shopping for xmas presents and gifts for my brother and sister.
Why do i buy Christmas presents? It is a common practise among me and my colleagues to give (if you can). It need not be expensive but its the thought that counts.
I received my first present - a Chanel Perfume - Allure Homme Sport ( THANK YOU TO RICHARD!)
Enjoy the pictures in the next post. Those are gifts that I actually bought for my colleagues.
It was wrapped and i prepared a nice paperbag for them to carry it in complete with a card.
Hope they enjoy their week!
KL here I come!!
Sunday, December 14, 2008
Moving
Alhamdulillah, with the help of a good agent, with the grace of God, I managed to find a place.
Moving to Jurong East with an Indian who is a christian family.
There will be 1 direct bus to work - 98!
I am just so glad because it was a hassle to find a place, to re look at the ways to get to work, and worst I am going holidays. It was a headache.
So for those of you who are staying around Jurong East, perhaps we can meet for coffee some days..hahaha..i am not sure where though!
Have a nice day!
Moving to Jurong East with an Indian who is a christian family.
There will be 1 direct bus to work - 98!
I am just so glad because it was a hassle to find a place, to re look at the ways to get to work, and worst I am going holidays. It was a headache.
So for those of you who are staying around Jurong East, perhaps we can meet for coffee some days..hahaha..i am not sure where though!
Have a nice day!
June Nita
June Nita, my cousin - from dad's side was married on Friday.
I took half the day off to prepare myself. Frankly it has been months/years since we met up. I didnt really had a good opinion of dad's family.
We were never close as a family. Too much historical issues for me. It predates since the days my mom and dad were courting.
Whatever it is, i pushed all those negative feelings aside and braved myself to come and see her before her akad nikah or solemnisation.
For the benefit of non muslim, akad nikah is a ceremony whereby the father of the bride and future son in law will meet. There the father of the bride will formally give away his daughter to the groom. Usually it will be based on an agreed mas kahwin or dowry.
Followed by bridal gifts which will be exchanged.
It is an emotional ceremony for every muslims parents and for the bride, she will be cared for now by her husband and not her father.
I came with my mom and my youngest sister. Earlier I had ordered 2 types of Kueh from Yati - the Kueh Koci and the Kueh Naga Sari. I loveeeddd her mom's kueh.
50 pieces each - no less.
Of course not forgetting the ang pow or duit salam for her. I thought of buying gifts but i decide not to as I am not sure what she likes anyway.
As i look around, i notice that my aunties and uncles are aging..same as my parents..its like..wow..27 years have passed unnoticed...
I wonder what it would be like in 10 years time.
I happen to banter with my eldest Aunt. Surprisingly.
All in all, i didnt really want to spend much time so i left at about 9pm, send sister home and went back to Clementi.
I took half the day off to prepare myself. Frankly it has been months/years since we met up. I didnt really had a good opinion of dad's family.
We were never close as a family. Too much historical issues for me. It predates since the days my mom and dad were courting.
Whatever it is, i pushed all those negative feelings aside and braved myself to come and see her before her akad nikah or solemnisation.
For the benefit of non muslim, akad nikah is a ceremony whereby the father of the bride and future son in law will meet. There the father of the bride will formally give away his daughter to the groom. Usually it will be based on an agreed mas kahwin or dowry.
Followed by bridal gifts which will be exchanged.
It is an emotional ceremony for every muslims parents and for the bride, she will be cared for now by her husband and not her father.
I came with my mom and my youngest sister. Earlier I had ordered 2 types of Kueh from Yati - the Kueh Koci and the Kueh Naga Sari. I loveeeddd her mom's kueh.
50 pieces each - no less.
Of course not forgetting the ang pow or duit salam for her. I thought of buying gifts but i decide not to as I am not sure what she likes anyway.
As i look around, i notice that my aunties and uncles are aging..same as my parents..its like..wow..27 years have passed unnoticed...
I wonder what it would be like in 10 years time.
I happen to banter with my eldest Aunt. Surprisingly.
All in all, i didnt really want to spend much time so i left at about 9pm, send sister home and went back to Clementi.
Wednesday, December 10, 2008
Hello Again!
Dear Readers,
I apologise for the long lapse.
I discovered something and had to fix it or rather avoid it :)
I even received a few emails from sister and some friends who was wondering what happen.
Dear Readers,
I am very sure that you do visit this blog regularly. Do me favour, link me up so i know who you are.
"Follow this Blog" is available at the side (scroll down please).
I really want to know who are my readers.
What has happen to me the past few days?
This week it was Hajj week and in Islamic Calender, I was born on that day. This week i work for 3 1/2 days as I have to attend June Nita's akad nikah or marriage solemnisation on Friday.
Hence the 1/2 day on Friday. I am not sure if I will be there on Sat/Sun.
Next week will be 4 working days for me as Friday I will be leaving for Kuala Lumpur for a short holiday trip to rest and recharge myself.
Oh by the way, I am looking for a room to rent.
Please let me know if you have any contacts:
The following is my requirement:
Master/Common Room
Preferably areas from Jurong East to Dover (Buona Vista/Clementi/Pandan/West Coast)
Budget $600 - $700
Prefer a wardrobe in the room only.
Aircon
TV Cable
Telephone Line
All for 2 persons - males :) if you have any..email me at edzylee@yahoo.com.sg
Let me know if there is any as I would like to secure it by this or next week and move in by 1st January 2009.
Thank you Readers :)
I apologise for the long lapse.
I discovered something and had to fix it or rather avoid it :)
I even received a few emails from sister and some friends who was wondering what happen.
Dear Readers,
I am very sure that you do visit this blog regularly. Do me favour, link me up so i know who you are.
"Follow this Blog" is available at the side (scroll down please).
I really want to know who are my readers.
What has happen to me the past few days?
This week it was Hajj week and in Islamic Calender, I was born on that day. This week i work for 3 1/2 days as I have to attend June Nita's akad nikah or marriage solemnisation on Friday.
Hence the 1/2 day on Friday. I am not sure if I will be there on Sat/Sun.
Next week will be 4 working days for me as Friday I will be leaving for Kuala Lumpur for a short holiday trip to rest and recharge myself.
Oh by the way, I am looking for a room to rent.
Please let me know if you have any contacts:
The following is my requirement:
Master/Common Room
Preferably areas from Jurong East to Dover (Buona Vista/Clementi/Pandan/West Coast)
Budget $600 - $700
Prefer a wardrobe in the room only.
Aircon
TV Cable
Telephone Line
All for 2 persons - males :) if you have any..email me at edzylee@yahoo.com.sg
Let me know if there is any as I would like to secure it by this or next week and move in by 1st January 2009.
Thank you Readers :)
Monday, December 01, 2008
Holiday Trip
As you all know that I have mentioned before, I am going for a holiday trip from the 19th December 2008 to 27th December 2008.
I will be travelling by bus at about 3 pm from Singapore Harbour Front and should reach One Utama at 8 pm.
This would be my second trip by bus. My first trip by bus was last year October 2007.
That would be for the 19th. I will be spending the night at Bandar Utama - a friend's place.
On 20th, depending on situation, I will be send to Kelana Jaya Station to take a trip down to KL Sentral or will be driven directly to KL Sentral.
Why? I will be staying at Hilton Hotel for my shopping trip and meet the friends/cousins session! :)
MUST GO TO and GET:
1. Shoes -> Pertama Shopping Complex
My last experience with this mall was last year. I love the price and shoes. It was a test out for me and I think i will buy more shoes this year.
2. Good bargains
3. Sales.
For those who have good shopping skills, let me know :)
Hugs
I will be travelling by bus at about 3 pm from Singapore Harbour Front and should reach One Utama at 8 pm.
This would be my second trip by bus. My first trip by bus was last year October 2007.
That would be for the 19th. I will be spending the night at Bandar Utama - a friend's place.
On 20th, depending on situation, I will be send to Kelana Jaya Station to take a trip down to KL Sentral or will be driven directly to KL Sentral.
Why? I will be staying at Hilton Hotel for my shopping trip and meet the friends/cousins session! :)
MUST GO TO and GET:
1. Shoes -> Pertama Shopping Complex
My last experience with this mall was last year. I love the price and shoes. It was a test out for me and I think i will buy more shoes this year.
2. Good bargains
3. Sales.
For those who have good shopping skills, let me know :)
Hugs
Musings of a mualaf
I love to read this blog. It is a personal thoughts of a Chinese lady who became a Muslim.
Today she put up a new entry and she put up her motto:
Here is what she believes in
"Ikut hati binasa, ikut Islam bahagia.
Takut manusia, hidup merana;
takut Allah balasannya syurga."
I agree 100% and she is so right!
Keep up Kak Aliya and get well soon!!
Today she put up a new entry and she put up her motto:
Here is what she believes in
"Ikut hati binasa, ikut Islam bahagia.
Takut manusia, hidup merana;
takut Allah balasannya syurga."
I agree 100% and she is so right!
Keep up Kak Aliya and get well soon!!
Sunday, November 30, 2008
Isu Tudung SIti Nurhaliza
Diam tak diam dah hampir setahun Datin Seri Hajjah Siti Nurhaliza menjadi Hajjah.
Apabila saya google nama dia, saya dapati masih ramai pembaca mempertikaikan keadaan Datin Seri Hajjah Siti Nurhaliza mengenai cara beliau memakai tudung.
Kalau mengikut hukum - kesemua wanita Islam wajib memakai tudung dan hanya tapak tangan dan mukanya sahaja yang boleh di lihatkan.
No tight fitting tops, no tight pants. Sesuai sekali kalau berjubah.
Tetapi, mengapa Siti sahaja yang di perkatakan? Sebab dia sudah menjadi Isteri atau Hajjah?
Lihat sekeliling anda, kalau ada yang rajin membaca majalah majalah gossip yang liar anda mesti ternampak gambar datin seri atau isteri isteri kepada Sultan Sultan atau orang kenamaan, yang sudah separuh abad atau lebih PUN tak bertudung.
Jangan cakap tudung, warna warni lagi rambut diaorang..kalahkan orang muda!
Memang saya akui saya peminat Datin Seri Hajjah Siti Nurhaliza sejak saya berusia belasan tahun lagi dan saya yakin dengan Siti.
Kalau anak sendiri tak nak bertudung jangan sibuk ngan anak orang.
Kalau rasa diri dah bagus sangat, jangan nak mengata sebab belum tahu esok lusa macam mana.
Kalau kat Malaysia, lengan pendek pun boleh bertudung...
Kalau kat Singapore, pakai baju pendek, bongkok sikit nampak seluar dalam pun boleh tudung..
Ish ish..Tak faham..
Tapi knowing me - since i am not perfect, i usually dont bother..but yang buat darah I menyirap, Siti tutup semua walaupun tak nampak seluar dalam dia pun kena kutuk!
So remember Ladies, bertudung hukumnya wajib. Sebelum anda mengutuk orang lain, anda periksa diri anda, kelakuan anda, kata kata anda, orang sekeliling saudara mara anda sebelumm memperkatakan orang lain :)
Pleaseeeeeeeeeeeee cerminkan diri anda dulu ye :)
Jangan main hembusssssss je ~ !
Apabila saya google nama dia, saya dapati masih ramai pembaca mempertikaikan keadaan Datin Seri Hajjah Siti Nurhaliza mengenai cara beliau memakai tudung.
Kalau mengikut hukum - kesemua wanita Islam wajib memakai tudung dan hanya tapak tangan dan mukanya sahaja yang boleh di lihatkan.
No tight fitting tops, no tight pants. Sesuai sekali kalau berjubah.
Tetapi, mengapa Siti sahaja yang di perkatakan? Sebab dia sudah menjadi Isteri atau Hajjah?
Lihat sekeliling anda, kalau ada yang rajin membaca majalah majalah gossip yang liar anda mesti ternampak gambar datin seri atau isteri isteri kepada Sultan Sultan atau orang kenamaan, yang sudah separuh abad atau lebih PUN tak bertudung.
Jangan cakap tudung, warna warni lagi rambut diaorang..kalahkan orang muda!
Memang saya akui saya peminat Datin Seri Hajjah Siti Nurhaliza sejak saya berusia belasan tahun lagi dan saya yakin dengan Siti.
Kalau anak sendiri tak nak bertudung jangan sibuk ngan anak orang.
Kalau rasa diri dah bagus sangat, jangan nak mengata sebab belum tahu esok lusa macam mana.
Kalau kat Malaysia, lengan pendek pun boleh bertudung...
Kalau kat Singapore, pakai baju pendek, bongkok sikit nampak seluar dalam pun boleh tudung..
Ish ish..Tak faham..
Tapi knowing me - since i am not perfect, i usually dont bother..but yang buat darah I menyirap, Siti tutup semua walaupun tak nampak seluar dalam dia pun kena kutuk!
So remember Ladies, bertudung hukumnya wajib. Sebelum anda mengutuk orang lain, anda periksa diri anda, kelakuan anda, kata kata anda, orang sekeliling saudara mara anda sebelumm memperkatakan orang lain :)
Pleaseeeeeeeeeeeee cerminkan diri anda dulu ye :)
Jangan main hembusssssss je ~ !
Condolences
Terrorist claim the life of one of Singapore Daughter - Ms Lo Hwei Yen.
To her family - I would like to express my deepest condolences to you and we shared your grief.
But nothing can relief the pain not even time. We hope that all Singaporeans take note of the fact that terrorism is real and everyone can be a victim to it.
It is indeed sad and It is not fair.
I hope all will pray for the well being of the family.
To her family - I would like to express my deepest condolences to you and we shared your grief.
But nothing can relief the pain not even time. We hope that all Singaporeans take note of the fact that terrorism is real and everyone can be a victim to it.
It is indeed sad and It is not fair.
I hope all will pray for the well being of the family.
Sunday!
I was revelling the Saturday night away until I realised that I have to work on Sunday! :(
Why?
There were some changes to our department's planning and noting that all pending works should be done by Saturday, we decide to be back on Sunday to clear our works.
Sometimes it is not the money that we want. We do need our rest.
We are aware that Hajj will be on next Monday and the idea of working through out the week till next Saturday did not appeal to me.
What disgust me most is while everyone is enjoying on those holidays that usually falls on the 1st of the month, I have to toil my ass away in the office.
1st January - New Year
1st May - Labour Day
These are the 2 confirmed holidays that I have to be at work. It is really tiring.
Anyway, I woke up at 5.45 am today, get myself ready and left mom's place at 6.30am. Took a cab back to Clementi as I have left my ID pass there and bought chee cheong fun for Jesz and prata for myself.
Left for work at 7.30 am and reach about 8 am.
Start working and while waiting for the system to complete what it is supposed to be doing, I look thru all blogs that I have in my list and some others that was recommended.
While reading, I was listening to the malay news on radio.
Sometimes I don't understand what MPs in the malay community is trying to say.
They were saying that malay families should not sacrifice their children's education by asking them to leave school when the family has not enough for them.
I mean which malay family will do that nowadays??? It is soooo in the 60s!
sigh~... i really dont get it...
Enough of that...will update some topics up soon.. there is so muchhhh i wanna talk about :)
Why?
There were some changes to our department's planning and noting that all pending works should be done by Saturday, we decide to be back on Sunday to clear our works.
Sometimes it is not the money that we want. We do need our rest.
We are aware that Hajj will be on next Monday and the idea of working through out the week till next Saturday did not appeal to me.
What disgust me most is while everyone is enjoying on those holidays that usually falls on the 1st of the month, I have to toil my ass away in the office.
1st January - New Year
1st May - Labour Day
These are the 2 confirmed holidays that I have to be at work. It is really tiring.
Anyway, I woke up at 5.45 am today, get myself ready and left mom's place at 6.30am. Took a cab back to Clementi as I have left my ID pass there and bought chee cheong fun for Jesz and prata for myself.
Left for work at 7.30 am and reach about 8 am.
Start working and while waiting for the system to complete what it is supposed to be doing, I look thru all blogs that I have in my list and some others that was recommended.
While reading, I was listening to the malay news on radio.
Sometimes I don't understand what MPs in the malay community is trying to say.
They were saying that malay families should not sacrifice their children's education by asking them to leave school when the family has not enough for them.
I mean which malay family will do that nowadays??? It is soooo in the 60s!
sigh~... i really dont get it...
Enough of that...will update some topics up soon.. there is so muchhhh i wanna talk about :)
Saturday, November 29, 2008
Weekends
Dear All,
My apologies for the very late update. It was beginning of a very hectic week for me.
I do not even have enough sleep! haha..
Anywaes, I do not have much happening within this week.
As for the latest pic, I was at home, in time for my dad's birthday celebration.
My aunt and cousin happen to be around. Therefore it was kind of a small family gathering.
We had KFC,Pizza Hut and an ice cream cake from Swensen's!
Yummy!
I bought dad a simple Polo T from Ashworth as I do not know what to get for him.
I think it was a good idea as he is always out and about with mom nowadays.
Happy Birthday Dad! Love you!
My apologies for the very late update. It was beginning of a very hectic week for me.
I do not even have enough sleep! haha..
Anywaes, I do not have much happening within this week.
As for the latest pic, I was at home, in time for my dad's birthday celebration.
My aunt and cousin happen to be around. Therefore it was kind of a small family gathering.
We had KFC,Pizza Hut and an ice cream cake from Swensen's!
Yummy!
I bought dad a simple Polo T from Ashworth as I do not know what to get for him.
I think it was a good idea as he is always out and about with mom nowadays.
Happy Birthday Dad! Love you!
Monday, November 24, 2008
Weekend
It has been a rather interesting weekend.
It started off with a fancy dinner on Friday - alright it wasn't that fancy but it was nice.
Followed by a movie on Saturday.
Followed by some DVD shows on Sunday.
It was ok i guess.
Oh..I would like to introduce you to a good friend of mine who just started her blog too
www.orkediary.blogspot.com
She is still learning and I hope readers will give her due support.
Orked - you will be listed on my blog! :)
Next update soon!
It started off with a fancy dinner on Friday - alright it wasn't that fancy but it was nice.
Followed by a movie on Saturday.
Followed by some DVD shows on Sunday.
It was ok i guess.
Oh..I would like to introduce you to a good friend of mine who just started her blog too
www.orkediary.blogspot.com
She is still learning and I hope readers will give her due support.
Orked - you will be listed on my blog! :)
Next update soon!
Saturday, November 22, 2008
Cramped!
In the middle of the night, I suffered a muscle cramped on my right leg. It was so bad that I was moaning in pain.
It happened when I stretch my leg which i believe is normal for everyone to do.
I was supposed to go for a walk today in the morning but had to cancel it and LAST WEEK I just recovered from the sprain that I got!
I understand that the pain will be felt for the next few days and have to bear with it.
Sigh~
It happened when I stretch my leg which i believe is normal for everyone to do.
I was supposed to go for a walk today in the morning but had to cancel it and LAST WEEK I just recovered from the sprain that I got!
I understand that the pain will be felt for the next few days and have to bear with it.
Sigh~
Interesting Week
It has been a very interesting week.
I managed to get through it with the loads of work hanging over me.
I was pissed off by a client and at the same time return the fellow the favour.
Revenge is Sweet.. :)
I decided that I deserve a good dinner on Friday and that is exactly what I did.
A plate of grilled chicken with mushroom sauce at Secret Recipe followed by Hazelnutte at Coffee Club.
Hang around till about 1140 pm before I decide to head home.
sigh~ :)
I managed to get through it with the loads of work hanging over me.
I was pissed off by a client and at the same time return the fellow the favour.
Revenge is Sweet.. :)
I decided that I deserve a good dinner on Friday and that is exactly what I did.
A plate of grilled chicken with mushroom sauce at Secret Recipe followed by Hazelnutte at Coffee Club.
Hang around till about 1140 pm before I decide to head home.
sigh~ :)
Wednesday, November 19, 2008
December Holiday Break
I need a break badly and I am counting my days to it.
My holidays will start from the 19th December 2008 to 27th December 2008.
I will be staying in Petaling Jaya with a family friend and most probably going out shopping as well.
I am so excited about it as I intend to shop till I drop! hahaaaaaaaaaa...
Why? Cause I need a new wardrobe!
For friends and cousins who are coming to meet me - i have allocated a day or two to all 20th and 21st of December. Most probably a hotel in town which I have not decide where yet. Suggestion anyone?
Let me know if you wanna meet me up!
Hugs
Edz
My holidays will start from the 19th December 2008 to 27th December 2008.
I will be staying in Petaling Jaya with a family friend and most probably going out shopping as well.
I am so excited about it as I intend to shop till I drop! hahaaaaaaaaaa...
Why? Cause I need a new wardrobe!
For friends and cousins who are coming to meet me - i have allocated a day or two to all 20th and 21st of December. Most probably a hotel in town which I have not decide where yet. Suggestion anyone?
Let me know if you wanna meet me up!
Hugs
Edz
Marriage Jokes 2
The Silent Treatment
A man and his wife were having some problems at home and were giving each other the silent treatment. Suddenly, the man realized that the next day, he would need his wife to wake him at 5:00 AM for an early morning business flight. Not wanting to be the first to break the silence (and LOSE), he wrote on a piece of paper, 'Please wake me at 5:00 AM ' He left it where he knew she would find it. The next morning, the man woke up, only to discover it was 9:00 AM and he had missed his flight. Furious, he was about to go and see why his wife hadn't wakened him, when he noticed a piece of paper by the bed. The paper said, 'It is 5:00 AM. Wake up.' Men are not equipped for these kinds of contests.
WIFE VS. HUSBAND
A couple drove down a country road for several miles, not saying a word. An earlier discussion had led to an argument and neither of them wanted to concede their position. As they passed a barnyard of mules, goats, and pigs, the husband asked sarcastically, 'Relatives of yours?' 'Yep,' the wife replied , 'in-laws
WOMEN'S REVENGE
'Cash, check or charge?' I asked, after folding items the woman wished to purchase. As she fumbled for her wallet I noticed a remote control for a television set in her purse. 'So, do you always carry your TV remote?' I asked.'No,' she replied, ' but my husband refused to come shopping with me, and I figured this was the most evil thing I could do to him legally.'
UNDERSTANDING WOMEN (A MAN'S PERSPECTIVE)
I know I'm not going to understand women. I'll never understand how you can take boiling hot wax, pour it onto your upper thigh, rip the hair out by the root, and still be afraid of a spider.
W O R D S
A husband read an article to his wife about how many words women use a day... 30,000 to a man's 15,000. The wife replied, 'The reason has to be because we have to repeat everything to men... The husband then turned to his wife and asked, 'What?'
CREATION
A man said to his wife one day, 'I don't know how you can be so stupid and so beautiful all at the same time.'The wife responded, 'Allow me to explain. God made me beautiful so you would be attracted to me; God made me stupid so I would be attracted to you!
WHO DOES WHAT
A man and his wife were having an argument about who should brew the coffee each morning. The wife said, 'You should do it, because you get up first, and then we don't have to wait as long to get our coffee.' The husband said, ' You are in charge of cooking around here and you should do it, because that is your job, and I can just wait for my coffee.' Wife replies, 'No, you should do it, and besides, it is in the Bible that the man should do the coffee.' Husband replies, 'I can't believe that, show me.' So she fetched the Bible, and opened the New Testament and showed him at the top of several pages, that it indeed says..........'HEBREWS'
God may have created man before woman, but as the saying goes, there is always a rough draft before the masterpiece.
A man and his wife were having some problems at home and were giving each other the silent treatment. Suddenly, the man realized that the next day, he would need his wife to wake him at 5:00 AM for an early morning business flight. Not wanting to be the first to break the silence (and LOSE), he wrote on a piece of paper, 'Please wake me at 5:00 AM ' He left it where he knew she would find it. The next morning, the man woke up, only to discover it was 9:00 AM and he had missed his flight. Furious, he was about to go and see why his wife hadn't wakened him, when he noticed a piece of paper by the bed. The paper said, 'It is 5:00 AM. Wake up.' Men are not equipped for these kinds of contests.
WIFE VS. HUSBAND
A couple drove down a country road for several miles, not saying a word. An earlier discussion had led to an argument and neither of them wanted to concede their position. As they passed a barnyard of mules, goats, and pigs, the husband asked sarcastically, 'Relatives of yours?' 'Yep,' the wife replied , 'in-laws
WOMEN'S REVENGE
'Cash, check or charge?' I asked, after folding items the woman wished to purchase. As she fumbled for her wallet I noticed a remote control for a television set in her purse. 'So, do you always carry your TV remote?' I asked.'No,' she replied, ' but my husband refused to come shopping with me, and I figured this was the most evil thing I could do to him legally.'
UNDERSTANDING WOMEN (A MAN'S PERSPECTIVE)
I know I'm not going to understand women. I'll never understand how you can take boiling hot wax, pour it onto your upper thigh, rip the hair out by the root, and still be afraid of a spider.
W O R D S
A husband read an article to his wife about how many words women use a day... 30,000 to a man's 15,000. The wife replied, 'The reason has to be because we have to repeat everything to men... The husband then turned to his wife and asked, 'What?'
CREATION
A man said to his wife one day, 'I don't know how you can be so stupid and so beautiful all at the same time.'The wife responded, 'Allow me to explain. God made me beautiful so you would be attracted to me; God made me stupid so I would be attracted to you!
WHO DOES WHAT
A man and his wife were having an argument about who should brew the coffee each morning. The wife said, 'You should do it, because you get up first, and then we don't have to wait as long to get our coffee.' The husband said, ' You are in charge of cooking around here and you should do it, because that is your job, and I can just wait for my coffee.' Wife replies, 'No, you should do it, and besides, it is in the Bible that the man should do the coffee.' Husband replies, 'I can't believe that, show me.' So she fetched the Bible, and opened the New Testament and showed him at the top of several pages, that it indeed says..........'HEBREWS'
God may have created man before woman, but as the saying goes, there is always a rough draft before the masterpiece.
Marriage Jokes
Before marriage....
He: Yes. At last. It was so hard to wait.
She: Do you want me to leave?
He: No! Don't even think about it.
She: Do you love me?
He: Of course! Over and over!
She: Have you ever cheated on me?
He: No! Why are you even asking?
She: Will you kiss me?
He: Every chance I get.
She: Will you hit me?
He: Are you crazy! I'm not that kind of person!
She: Can I trust you?
He: Yes.
She: Darling!
After marriage.... Simply read from bottom to top!
He: Yes. At last. It was so hard to wait.
She: Do you want me to leave?
He: No! Don't even think about it.
She: Do you love me?
He: Of course! Over and over!
She: Have you ever cheated on me?
He: No! Why are you even asking?
She: Will you kiss me?
He: Every chance I get.
She: Will you hit me?
He: Are you crazy! I'm not that kind of person!
She: Can I trust you?
He: Yes.
She: Darling!
After marriage.... Simply read from bottom to top!
Jangan Stress...Baca ni!
Sorry - only for those who understand malay language..
ORANG YANG TIDAK JUJUR :Orang yang kalau kentut salahkan orang lain.
ORANG BANGANG :Orang yang tak sedar kalau dia tengah kentut
ORANG SENGSARA :Orang yang nak kentut tapi tak boleh
ORANG YANG MISTERI :Jika dia kentut, orang lain tak tau
ORANG GUGUP :Orang yang tiba2 menahan kentutnya saat kentut
ORANG BANGGA/RIAK :Orang yang ingat kentut dia wangi
ORANG SADIS :Orang yang kalau habis kentut, kentutnya dikibaskan dekat orang lain
ORANG PEMALU :Orang yang kentut tak bunyi, tapi malu sendiri
ORANG BANYAK IDEA :Orang yang menyembunyikan kentutnya dengan tertawa terbahak-bahak
ORANG YANG BERJIMAT :Orang yang habis kentut, menghirup kentutnya sendiri untuk menggantikan kentutnya yang keluar
ORANG PEMARAH :Kentutnya sungguh panas berapi.
ORANG SOMBONG :Orang yang kalau dia terkentut, akan diceritakan kentutnya itu berasal dari restoran mahal
ORANG BOSAN:Orang yang kalau kentut atau orang lain kentut, riak mukanya sama sahaja seperti tiada apa2 berlaku
ORANG RAMAH :Orang yang suka mencium kentut orang lain
ORANG YANG AKUATIK :Orang yang hobi kentut di dalam air.
ORANG YANG ATHLETIC :Orang yang kentut sambil mengeluarkan tenaga dalaman
ORANG JUJUR :Orang yang mengaku bila habis kentut meskipun orang lain tak tanya
ORANG KUAT INGATAN :Orang yang boleh tahu kentut orang lain dengan bau, bunyi serta kehangatannya.
ORANG MALANG :Orang lain yang kentut, tapi dia yang selalu kena.
ORANG MUZIK :Orang yang kentutnya berirama
ORANG INTERNET :Orang yang bunyi kentutnya macam bunyi modem.
ORANG KERAS KEPALA :Orang yang terus balas kentut jika ada orang lain yang berani kentut di depannya
ORANG TAK GUNA :Orang yang mengentuti orang lain tepat di mukanya.
ORANG YANG TIDAK JUJUR :Orang yang kalau kentut salahkan orang lain.
ORANG BANGANG :Orang yang tak sedar kalau dia tengah kentut
ORANG SENGSARA :Orang yang nak kentut tapi tak boleh
ORANG YANG MISTERI :Jika dia kentut, orang lain tak tau
ORANG GUGUP :Orang yang tiba2 menahan kentutnya saat kentut
ORANG BANGGA/RIAK :Orang yang ingat kentut dia wangi
ORANG SADIS :Orang yang kalau habis kentut, kentutnya dikibaskan dekat orang lain
ORANG PEMALU :Orang yang kentut tak bunyi, tapi malu sendiri
ORANG BANYAK IDEA :Orang yang menyembunyikan kentutnya dengan tertawa terbahak-bahak
ORANG YANG BERJIMAT :Orang yang habis kentut, menghirup kentutnya sendiri untuk menggantikan kentutnya yang keluar
ORANG PEMARAH :Kentutnya sungguh panas berapi.
ORANG SOMBONG :Orang yang kalau dia terkentut, akan diceritakan kentutnya itu berasal dari restoran mahal
ORANG BOSAN:Orang yang kalau kentut atau orang lain kentut, riak mukanya sama sahaja seperti tiada apa2 berlaku
ORANG RAMAH :Orang yang suka mencium kentut orang lain
ORANG YANG AKUATIK :Orang yang hobi kentut di dalam air.
ORANG YANG ATHLETIC :Orang yang kentut sambil mengeluarkan tenaga dalaman
ORANG JUJUR :Orang yang mengaku bila habis kentut meskipun orang lain tak tanya
ORANG KUAT INGATAN :Orang yang boleh tahu kentut orang lain dengan bau, bunyi serta kehangatannya.
ORANG MALANG :Orang lain yang kentut, tapi dia yang selalu kena.
ORANG MUZIK :Orang yang kentutnya berirama
ORANG INTERNET :Orang yang bunyi kentutnya macam bunyi modem.
ORANG KERAS KEPALA :Orang yang terus balas kentut jika ada orang lain yang berani kentut di depannya
ORANG TAK GUNA :Orang yang mengentuti orang lain tepat di mukanya.
Monday, November 17, 2008
Wall
Today, it was like history repeating itself.
I built a wall around me. After what I had find out, after what I had read, after what i know will happen, has happened, no point smiling when there is nothing to smile about.
I was very warm to deserving friends, very cold to some.
I am very sure some are perplexed to my behaviour.
Why Not?
Like i said, after so much has been done, so much has been pointed out before and what I had forewarned, it came true. Yet no one choose to listen.
I believe this wall will remain high and strong...until someone comes a long and manage to bring it down.
I built a wall around me. After what I had find out, after what I had read, after what i know will happen, has happened, no point smiling when there is nothing to smile about.
I was very warm to deserving friends, very cold to some.
I am very sure some are perplexed to my behaviour.
Why Not?
Like i said, after so much has been done, so much has been pointed out before and what I had forewarned, it came true. Yet no one choose to listen.
I believe this wall will remain high and strong...until someone comes a long and manage to bring it down.
Sunday, November 16, 2008
Hope
While I was ironing clothes this morning, I ran through events that have happened for the past week at work.
I speculate what will happen from now on. No one can be certain. One thing for sure, I am no longer in my comfort zone.
A "tiger" has been unleashed and is invading into my territory.
Why tiger? They dont know who you are or what you are or what you do. All they want is to devour you.
That is exactly how i feel right now.
The word dispensable comes too often in my mind.
I had a chat with Orked on Saturday and she told me the same thing too. That when change wants to happen it should be implemented over a period of time. Not immediately and not to expect instant results.
Moreover, there was not enough study to indicate that the current process is redundant.
Orked is of the mind that, unless you wants to go through what we go through, you are not in a position to talk.
I had the same mentality.
Oh well, I appreciate the good times but in times like this, makes me sick of even returning.
A new life must unfold for me. I cannot take it anymore.
Here with I quote a famous officer who used to be my superior -
"Just do what you can, never exceed what you cant"
I was young then and naive and serving the country. But when i think back of what he says, it is true.
Once you exceed your ability, there is a certain expectation that people expects from you.
We are all humans and bound to make mistakes.
All we can is just try our best...
My target? 20th January 2009 - I will make it happen with God's will.
Pray for me
Edz
I speculate what will happen from now on. No one can be certain. One thing for sure, I am no longer in my comfort zone.
A "tiger" has been unleashed and is invading into my territory.
Why tiger? They dont know who you are or what you are or what you do. All they want is to devour you.
That is exactly how i feel right now.
The word dispensable comes too often in my mind.
I had a chat with Orked on Saturday and she told me the same thing too. That when change wants to happen it should be implemented over a period of time. Not immediately and not to expect instant results.
Moreover, there was not enough study to indicate that the current process is redundant.
Orked is of the mind that, unless you wants to go through what we go through, you are not in a position to talk.
I had the same mentality.
Oh well, I appreciate the good times but in times like this, makes me sick of even returning.
A new life must unfold for me. I cannot take it anymore.
Here with I quote a famous officer who used to be my superior -
"Just do what you can, never exceed what you cant"
I was young then and naive and serving the country. But when i think back of what he says, it is true.
Once you exceed your ability, there is a certain expectation that people expects from you.
We are all humans and bound to make mistakes.
All we can is just try our best...
My target? 20th January 2009 - I will make it happen with God's will.
Pray for me
Edz
Saturday, November 15, 2008
Straits Kitchen
Straits Kitchen is a restaurant located at Hyatt Hotel - Scotts Road (beside Far East Plaza)
It is one of the famous restaurant that is certified Halal by MUIS.
I had the opportunity to dine there today as I am celebrating a birthday.
I had made the booking 2 weeks ago and invited Ming & friends.
So at 7pm, there were 4 of us, dining and helping ourselves to the wonderful buffet spreads.
I realised that there are mainly 4 categories,
Nyonya Section
Chinese Section
Indian Section
Indonesian Section
Dessert Section
(all racial types)
We had a wonderful dinner.
I would really recommend those who have yet to visit this place, to go there.
However, the charges do not come with the drinks and you are actually just paying for food only.
It was really good and I enjoyed myself very much..so did the birthday Boy!.
Hugs
Edzwan
ps: I have to apologise for the pictures though. I had thought of bring the camera along but i didn't and had to make do with the Iphone camera. Sorry.
Friday, November 14, 2008
I give up!
In life you are given so many choices. I therefore have made up my choice.
After today's incident, I am reluctant to continue with what I am doing. I believe that there is more to life than just all this command and control...
Sometimes, the people above you do not understand the ground work. Sometimes the people at the bottom do not know what the people above is trying to do.
When you thought you are contributing, they will think the worst of you.
When you thought you are sacrificing, they will think you are taking advantage of a situation.
When you thought you are laughing, they think you are being lazy.
When you thought you are quarrelling - they think you got nothing better to do.
If such is the perception - so be it.
I give up.
There is nothing more to say.
I shall just do what I can do to pass my time away.
Life is short, i shall not spoilt it just because some people refusedddd to see it in another way.
Strained Feet
Initially I wanted to say sprained but I don't think I sprained it but I strained it.
As the sports committee had announce that there will be a weekly run, I thought why not join in.
As I had bought new nike shorts and cap to go with, I decide to join.
What cause my strained muscle was due to the long long long long long time of not exercising. The last one i cant remember.
hahah...I believe I should have gone slower and did more proper warm up. Lesson to be learnt?
WALK BEFORE YOUR RUN!
HAHAHHHH Serve me Right!
Happy Birthday Jesz!
Happy Birthday Jesz!
May you be
a. prosperous always
b. wealthy always
c. healthy always
d. happy always
God Bless You.
Best Regards,
Edzwan
HOTA / Smoking
HOTA
What I told you before?
Now I am in a dilemma. Since the last change in the Laws, all Singapore Muslims now must Opt Out in order not to be part of the HOTA.
Now they want to reimburse or compensate those who actually donate their organ.
Initially it is FOC.
My question would be, will the Malay Muslim Community who are tempted by the compensation (if it is approved can amount to tens of thousand) will start this?
We are part of it because of a ruling fatwa.
If money changes hands (even though you call it compensation or whatsoever) it is still an act of inducement to me.
There are many ways to reward a person and monetary is not one of them.
Why not allow a free medical attention or minimal payment for all these people who actually donate their organs for life?
I think this is a better inducement. Money do not last forever.
SMOKING
I would like to believe that smoking causes lots of diseases.
However, in Singapore, it is a known fact that cigarettes is bringing in revenue for the country. (not much but its true)
However, since a child, we learn to know that cigarettes are made up of harmful toxins and other ingredients, why do people still actually smokes?
I would really hope that there would be a fatwa to ban ALL muslims from smoking.
As cigarettes harms the body and in the long run leads to diseases, it is therefore memudaratkan to a person.
If drinking is haram and if consuming pork is haram for ALL muslims, therefore it is logical to think that cigarettes is haram for it cause a lot of problem for a smoker.
It also affects the person who happen to be around the smoker too.
Well they did released a Fatwa on donating organ, i think it is about time to ban the haram things as well.
What say you readers?
If there is something good done for the benefit of every community, there must be something else to be done which will benefit every one too.
Monday, November 10, 2008
Recession?
Everyone is talking about it recently. It has been 10 years since the last recession.
I noticed one predictable issue - if the news mentioned something like today, the cut of CPF contribution from the employers, I am certainly sure it will be implemented. It's like telling the people to expect it to happen.
How do i know?
Remember our organ trading issue? Now they want to re-imburse us for donating our kidneys. People talk about it and they are about to legalise it.
Oh well, I will talk about it again.
Now Bed Time.
I noticed one predictable issue - if the news mentioned something like today, the cut of CPF contribution from the employers, I am certainly sure it will be implemented. It's like telling the people to expect it to happen.
How do i know?
Remember our organ trading issue? Now they want to re-imburse us for donating our kidneys. People talk about it and they are about to legalise it.
Oh well, I will talk about it again.
Now Bed Time.
Sunday, November 09, 2008
Berita Minggu
Today the headline in Berita Minggu is:
Ramai Suami Punca Masalah Sosial Keluarga Melayu/Islam
Truly, the topic itself is going to be a debate among husband and wife today.
First and foremost, I am not in a position to question the institution of marriage for I am still single. However it seems right that I do come to the rescue of the men in the family too.
The person who brought up this issue is naturally a women. A women who happen to counsel other women.
Women of the 21st century is naturally more spirited compared to our grandparents days. They are more educated given all sorts of rights that they have nowadays.
Even forced sex in a marriage is considered a rape.
However, let us examine the question as to why men are the causes of this issue.
Women believe that the men are:
1. not earning enough to support a family.
2. fooling around with other women
3. malay men are drug addicts.
These are the main issues that was raised.
However, this is what I am going to say to their issues:
1. Not earning enough to support a family
By nature, men are supposed to work and women cares for the household. This is the way it is and this was supposed to be.
However in the current 21st Century, both men and women work. Even our government encourage our women to work.
Let us now examine the reasons why women now goes to work:
1. Supplement family income
2. Financially Independent
3. Used to work even before marriage
4. Career minded
As our women are more educated nowadays compared to the men, they have been given the knowledge to choose what they want to do with their life.
Men knows that this can be a problem but decides to make an issue out of it.
However men do shirk their responsibility too. Women on the other hand is too forgiving at times.
Before marriage, the men usually pays for all those dating lunches/dinners etc. Some even go for dutch BUT most of the time the men pays because if the women pays, i am sure the women will decide to call off the relationship after she pays for the 3rd time (some even after the 1st time !)
However, while proposing for marriage, the women may demand for a high dowry (hantaran). Not ALL men can afford a high dowry.
Now, let me bring you to an example. Ali earns $2K a month. After deducting CPF, he gets $1.6K a month. Ali has parents to care for and a wife to be.
His household expenses for his parents is about $700.00 and Ali is left with $900.00.
Ali saves $450.00 a month for his wife to be dowry which is $7000.00!
Dear readers, take $7000.00 divide by $450.00 = 16 months to save!
This is not inclusive of the wedding banquet and other expenses. Assuming that Ali invites about 500 guest and each guest is charged at $10.00 per guest, it is $5000.00.
Before marriage Ali is already burden with $12000.00 or more to prepare for a wedding. Astaghfirullah!
The women is not spared. Wanting to look her best, she engage the best mak andam available price can range from $3K to $10K even.
Not forgetting the banquet at the women's side as well. This will bring a total of about $20K on average for the very basic.
Secondly, take a look at the requirements on applying a flat. Regardless of the requirement, the most important thing that one must have is the CASH. Without it, nothing can get done.
With our dear Ali earning $2K and splurging on a wedding plus a flat to book, how can he saved enough for it?
Naturally a bank loan is the answer - (oh i miss out on the honeymoon)
Even before marriage, he might already be in debt.
Once married, he has to give nafkah to his wife. even if she is working, HE have to give her the nafkah - this is the right for ALL muslim women stated clearly.
So now imagine Ali $2K salary is divide among
1. His family
2. His wife
3. His housing loan (if any)
4. His household expenses
This is the worst possible scenario than I am giving. There are better scenarios too.
Readers, tell me, is the dowry an aspect of Islam? I remembered that only the Mas Kahwin is important not the wang hantaran.
And also why burden your future son-in-law for dowries? Are you selling your daughters or giving your daughters away?
However, assuming that Ali has the financial means to have a great wedding, he has no debts for housing loan.
He earns the same and gives his wife maybe about $200.00 in nafkah and additional $800.00 in household expenses - tell me for a family of four, is $800.00 enough?
Whether enough or not, we have to live within our means. The men has tried his best and there are ways for the women to help out. As long as all are for the mutual benefit of the family, women should be accepting of what the men goes through.
However, this situation may arises if the men takes advantage of it. If the women earns more than her share, the men may not give her any nafkah at all. Citing reasons that the women earns more than him, therefore do not need his nafkah is WRONG. Does this mean, if the women earns more than him, that SHE has now to give him nafkah?
Another scenario would be She works and He stays home to look after the household and manage the children. Is this right in the first place? Only God Knows.
2. Men Fooling Around
By nature itself, men has their needs. However, my query would be, is the women equally to be blamed?
I do have friends who are married that complaint to me that their wives refused to be intimate with them. The reasons usually - tired.
True, everyone is tired after a hard day at work but we must learn to relax.
With the exception of the menstrual days that a women have to go through, they are obliged to
meet the needs of the men as much as the men are obliged to stay PUT to one woman only and not to throw his seeds all over the place.
Islam allows a man is to marry up to 4 BUT if he can be fair to all of them; but if he can't stay put to 1. Fair in this aspect - financially, sexually, in time etc.
Intimacy must be renewed so that one feels loved and always be loved. This i understand very much is part of the human emotions.
1. One do not have faith in one's partner
2. No Renewed Intimacy
3. When the wife is too preoccupied with work, kids, family etc.
However for the men, they seldom burden themselves with the upbringing of the children or the household chores.
My suggestion: Start doing them and learn to get closer to your children. It helps to keep you out of mischief.
By the way, household chores don't make you less of a man. Instead, it will set the standards to your children; that they have to help out at home too.
3. Malay Men are Drug Addicts
This is a very expensive hobby. Women whose boyfriends belong to this category, should NOT marry him in the first place no matter how much he begged you no to leave him.
I used the same reasoning to my family members. He will crawl back to that habit the moment the leash is let loose.
It is definitely true for this. I have yet to meet a chinese addict. I am sure there is but unfortunately I have not personally met one yet.
In summary, I believe that in Islam there are many solutions to a problem. One should be wise in managing them.
In truth is, our men are capable of managing the wives. They goes astray when something happens in the household.
As wives, they should examine their bad habits too. Some men don't really like to point out but prefer to keep quiet about it fearing a back lash or cold treatment from the wives but reality is - no one is perfect.
As husbands, be prepared to shed some ego a bit. Sometimes, it works wonders.
As how a colleague of mine put it - When my wife starts nagging, i will just agree with whatever she says; i can get back at her later..
I believe not everyone will agree with me. But what I have said and shared is what I have heard and knew of. However i truly believe not everyone has the same scenario.
I hope couples are able to make a lot of give and take situation in marriages. It is not easy because it is a journey of a life time.
Judge
Reason why i came up with this title is because i find that sometimes people can be very very petty when judging a person.
Recently, a clear reason as to why a certain someone is avoiding me became apparent. True, I may be irritating at times - I admit my shortcomings BUT I expect my friends to be honest and tell me what they don't like about me.
Mom advise me when we don't like a person or his character, not to totally hate or avoid him. This is wrong. To put off a silaturrahim is not advisable in fact it is morally wrong in religion.
That is why I will try to tell myself to forgive and move on. To chat with the person sincerely if i believe I have been bad. This I tried alright?
Remember often that on occasion, this same person that I hate or try to avoid might have done something good for me.
I remember an incident that he did help me to return a library book and also purchase a CD on my behalf without asking me for payment even though i insist.
"That", mom says, is enough to tell me that there cannot be any hatred towards that person because, on his side, he had been sincere towards me after all.
There is 2 sides to a story and 2 sides to a game.
You never know when someone will treat you as bad as how you treat that someone else or you will never know when you will be helped by that person whom you treated badly - then you realised how embarrasing the situation can be.
Give in the name of Allah,
Love in the name of Allah,
Forgive in the name of Allah,
Be Gracious in the name of Allah.
Insya Allah - all will turn out well...
Recently, a clear reason as to why a certain someone is avoiding me became apparent. True, I may be irritating at times - I admit my shortcomings BUT I expect my friends to be honest and tell me what they don't like about me.
Mom advise me when we don't like a person or his character, not to totally hate or avoid him. This is wrong. To put off a silaturrahim is not advisable in fact it is morally wrong in religion.
That is why I will try to tell myself to forgive and move on. To chat with the person sincerely if i believe I have been bad. This I tried alright?
Remember often that on occasion, this same person that I hate or try to avoid might have done something good for me.
I remember an incident that he did help me to return a library book and also purchase a CD on my behalf without asking me for payment even though i insist.
"That", mom says, is enough to tell me that there cannot be any hatred towards that person because, on his side, he had been sincere towards me after all.
There is 2 sides to a story and 2 sides to a game.
You never know when someone will treat you as bad as how you treat that someone else or you will never know when you will be helped by that person whom you treated badly - then you realised how embarrasing the situation can be.
Give in the name of Allah,
Love in the name of Allah,
Forgive in the name of Allah,
Be Gracious in the name of Allah.
Insya Allah - all will turn out well...
Outing with Mom....
It was definitely a mommy's boy outing.
The moment i reach home at about 3 pm, i put down my bag and went in to mom's room. Found her ready to go.
First stop - Ikea Tampines. Even though the place has been opened for about 2 years (i think) mom has never go there before. Hence I thought, it would be a good thing to walk about with and listen to her problems she faced etc. Stress Relief and Relaxing moments for her if you wish to think it that way.
We spend about 2hours there. As we walked and looked, we talked about the things that Dad wishes to buy.
A TV console. We look at all types of TV consoles that is available. We found one that interest us. It is not that expensive, about $698 only and it is a NEW product!
We didn't buy any major items because we believe in discussing with Dad first before buying.
However that didn't stop us from buying other items such as:
1. A Table Runner
2. Two Rugs
3. A Napkin Holder
4. Napkins
Next stop - Courts which is just next door. Dad also intend to get a new TV. Ours is the old one and it has been 10 years. Still good but we wish to update ourselves.
Dad is eyeing the LG or Samsung about 37 ". However yesterday, I was tempted to swipe my credit card for the Sharp 42" which was going for $1499! It was ridiculously cheap. I knew Dad would not mind but I tell myself to think carefully.
He would pay me back of course but for an item going more than 50% off the actual price stirred my curiosity. To top it of, there were only 2 units left and it is inclusive the one on display. I frankly believed it could be a rejected item or belonging to hire purchase clients who could not keep up with paymetns.
It was really a temptation. Mom was tempted too! (I suspect she had bring her ATM card along as well)
In the end I convince her to keep it off our head because:
1. The price is too low
2. There are only 2 units left
3. We do not know if they are rejected or hire purchased before
4. Will it be well guaranteed? (This was not openly informed on the TV unlike the rest of the TV that is on display)
After walking around, we had coffee and tuna and cheesecake for tea.
After Courts, we took the free bus service to Tampines Mall. It has been a good 10 years I think since Mom last saw Tampines Mall. She do go Tampines if need be but she never been to Tampines Mall since the last time we came - i think when I was in Primary school...Wait a minute..12 years old and I am 27 now, that makes it 15 YEARS!!!
We went to Swarovski, the boutique that Jesz and I bought her the brooch for her birthday.
We look around but i dont find anything interesting. She liked one of the brooch though. It was a squarish looking but full of colours. After a while, I agree with her that it did look nice and unique.
After the short trip at Tampines Mall, we then proceed to the MRT Station to go to Changi Airport for dinner.
I promised to bring her to the Halal Chinese Restaurant and so we did!
It is at Terminal 2. Nice food. You guys should go there sometime. TSC by Tong Shui Cafe.
The day ended with me buying chocolates from Cocoa Trees and soon we sped home in a cab with our family waiting for us.
Frankly, I enjoyed it very much...
The moment i reach home at about 3 pm, i put down my bag and went in to mom's room. Found her ready to go.
First stop - Ikea Tampines. Even though the place has been opened for about 2 years (i think) mom has never go there before. Hence I thought, it would be a good thing to walk about with and listen to her problems she faced etc. Stress Relief and Relaxing moments for her if you wish to think it that way.
We spend about 2hours there. As we walked and looked, we talked about the things that Dad wishes to buy.
A TV console. We look at all types of TV consoles that is available. We found one that interest us. It is not that expensive, about $698 only and it is a NEW product!
We didn't buy any major items because we believe in discussing with Dad first before buying.
However that didn't stop us from buying other items such as:
1. A Table Runner
2. Two Rugs
3. A Napkin Holder
4. Napkins
Next stop - Courts which is just next door. Dad also intend to get a new TV. Ours is the old one and it has been 10 years. Still good but we wish to update ourselves.
Dad is eyeing the LG or Samsung about 37 ". However yesterday, I was tempted to swipe my credit card for the Sharp 42" which was going for $1499! It was ridiculously cheap. I knew Dad would not mind but I tell myself to think carefully.
He would pay me back of course but for an item going more than 50% off the actual price stirred my curiosity. To top it of, there were only 2 units left and it is inclusive the one on display. I frankly believed it could be a rejected item or belonging to hire purchase clients who could not keep up with paymetns.
It was really a temptation. Mom was tempted too! (I suspect she had bring her ATM card along as well)
In the end I convince her to keep it off our head because:
1. The price is too low
2. There are only 2 units left
3. We do not know if they are rejected or hire purchased before
4. Will it be well guaranteed? (This was not openly informed on the TV unlike the rest of the TV that is on display)
I rather pay for something more valuable and get more benefits out of it.
Christmas decoration are also up and it feels good to walk about knowing that we are having 2 more holidays in December - That is Hajj and Christmas.
After walking around, we had coffee and tuna and cheesecake for tea.
After Courts, we took the free bus service to Tampines Mall. It has been a good 10 years I think since Mom last saw Tampines Mall. She do go Tampines if need be but she never been to Tampines Mall since the last time we came - i think when I was in Primary school...Wait a minute..12 years old and I am 27 now, that makes it 15 YEARS!!!
We went to Swarovski, the boutique that Jesz and I bought her the brooch for her birthday.
We look around but i dont find anything interesting. She liked one of the brooch though. It was a squarish looking but full of colours. After a while, I agree with her that it did look nice and unique.
After the short trip at Tampines Mall, we then proceed to the MRT Station to go to Changi Airport for dinner.
I promised to bring her to the Halal Chinese Restaurant and so we did!
It is at Terminal 2. Nice food. You guys should go there sometime. TSC by Tong Shui Cafe.
The day ended with me buying chocolates from Cocoa Trees and soon we sped home in a cab with our family waiting for us.
Frankly, I enjoyed it very much...
Saturday, November 08, 2008
Weekend!
Today I slept like a pig. As always!
Jesz went out early for a charity thing while I got to stay home and clean room.
I am going back as soon as he comes back as I will be out to Ikea in the afternoon and dinner with just me and MOM! haha
Wonder where I should bring her for dinner. :)
Sorry
I have been busy. I am very sorry!
After the weekend outing with Auntie,cousin,dad & mom, I have been extremely busy at work.
It was a smooth week. I ended my friday with an audit meet and followed by a report that i need to submit to another colleague. My temporary assistant, did not finish some of my stuff due to some slight delay by a vendor.
Oh! I must share with you. I had 3 temps came on Monday.
Let's just say the girl is A and the 2 boys is B and C.
Somehow the moment i gave them a glance, i have a bad feeling that I wont click unlike the 3 ahbengs that came last month - they may be Ah Beng but they did superb and exactly what i wanted!
Anyway to cut the story short- this is what i did and what happen:
1. "A" completed only up to the 2nd day as by the 3rd day I told HR that i dont require her useless service anymore.
2. The Group so called "sabotaged" by sending out 190 envelopes without stamps.
I heard this from my colleague. I remembered checking ALL my envelopes. I am not sure whose envelopes was affected. It could be mine or it could be someone else.
Anyway my assistant is a much much better person than the 3 of them combined. At least she has initiatives, common senses and ability to assess a situation.
I hope HR won't call them again. They are just a pain in the neck.
I applied for leave on Thursday.
Since i was out, i went to ICA, to do my passport followed by a hunt for a book which is only available at 2 selected bookstores - No Hard Feelings; A Reporter's Memoir by Ismail Kassim.
The Malay Community MUST read this book. Given our level of education, our open mindedness, our values, this book compliments our thoughts and our plans for the future. It should not be regarded as controversial at all. It is a great book. Kudos to Ismail Kassim!
Moreover, I finished my Benazir Bhutto and I just got this book and Mom Presented to me the Holy Quran which is written in Arabic of course AND the translation in English! YeAH! its small and compact and i can carry it anywhere!
Love ya Mom/Dad!
Monday, November 03, 2008
Sunday
Remember I shared with you that I was going for a wedding?
We did go to a wedding. A Wedding lunch.
From office (yes I was in office), took a cab to mom's place and get ready to go. Changed to a short sleeved shirt and jeans and sandals.
Simple.
After wedding (which was ok i guess), we went to Bugis. Who is We?
Me
Mom
Dad
Aunt Ramlah
Ayie (Ma Cousin)
There were piccies of course. Will upload later.
Pretty fun to walk around and laugh together. It was interesting day.
We did go to a wedding. A Wedding lunch.
From office (yes I was in office), took a cab to mom's place and get ready to go. Changed to a short sleeved shirt and jeans and sandals.
Simple.
After wedding (which was ok i guess), we went to Bugis. Who is We?
Me
Mom
Dad
Aunt Ramlah
Ayie (Ma Cousin)
There were piccies of course. Will upload later.
Pretty fun to walk around and laugh together. It was interesting day.
Saturday, November 01, 2008
Post Raya Lunch
Hi All,
Today we had a post Raya Lunch.
I invited Jati and Yati since both of us are in the office today (Month End).
Since Yang, the new chap is around, Jati extend the invitation to him too.
It was a nice lunch I guess.
Their website would be www.pagi-sore.com.
We ordered the following:
1. Tahu Telor
2. Sayur Combinasi (mixed vege)
3. Tahu Pecal
4. Ayam Goreng Bumbu
5. Ayam Bali
6. Kambing Gulai
7. Ikan Otah Kukus
8. Rice
We were served keropok and sambal belacan first.
My favourite is the Ayam Bali and the Ikan Otah Kukus... Fabulous...
You all should drop by next time.
Hugs
Edz
Today we had a post Raya Lunch.
I invited Jati and Yati since both of us are in the office today (Month End).
Since Yang, the new chap is around, Jati extend the invitation to him too.
It was a nice lunch I guess.
Their website would be www.pagi-sore.com.
We ordered the following:
1. Tahu Telor
2. Sayur Combinasi (mixed vege)
3. Tahu Pecal
4. Ayam Goreng Bumbu
5. Ayam Bali
6. Kambing Gulai
7. Ikan Otah Kukus
8. Rice
We were served keropok and sambal belacan first.
My favourite is the Ayam Bali and the Ikan Otah Kukus... Fabulous...
You all should drop by next time.
Hugs
Edz
Thursday, October 30, 2008
Piccies~!
Remember last week i went for a dinner with a colleague?
Here is the picture..mine mine..i am so prosperous nowadays.
Wednesday, October 29, 2008
When The Cat is Away, The Mouse Comes Out To Play!
Well well well...
It is a familiar situation isn't it?
It is happening now, in the office.
Early release.
Come In Late.
Go Back Early.
Longer Lunch.
What can we do.
Shut Up and Mind Our Own Business~
It is a familiar situation isn't it?
It is happening now, in the office.
Early release.
Come In Late.
Go Back Early.
Longer Lunch.
What can we do.
Shut Up and Mind Our Own Business~
Busy Busy~!
Time flies really fast. When I decide to re-write this blog, it was the first week of October and now it is already end of October.
Festivity mood is over and I look forward to the next holidays - Hajj and Christmas.
I did not really spend much time over the weekend with family as I was out visiting friends and relatives.
Once that was done and over with, I spend my Monday - Deepavali Hols ironing clothes and playing game.
I am currently engrossed with SIMS. I played it almost every evening now.
I really do not like the last week of the month as I have to work late and starts to rush out all last minute preparation before I can actually start doing what I am supposed to do (yes in finance / accounting - this is the way it is)
Oh - i have to work over the weekends for this week and I got a wedding reception to attend as well...sigh~ i wonder how i can manage that - it will work out eventually.
Since we are at the subject of work, recently something happen (there seems to be something that happen almost every other week)
I noticed that there were many areas that I am covering and I just do not have the time to cover all of it or if i do, I believe I am not doing it to the best of my ability.
I hate to leave unfinished tasks hanging over my head because it will haunt me again later.
Truly I am right.
A year ago, there is this client who proposed to my company to follow a certain process.
At that point of time, I was not really keen considering the volume and the follow up action that I have to do.
True enough a year later what I have thought before came true. Of course a year ago, i highlighted it to my in charge but I have to admit that there is a certain advantage to what we will implement for this client BUT there was a set back as well.
True enough the setback came to haunt me especially. Guess who is tasked to clear the mess? Yours Truly.
Frankly, I do not understand why some people just do not have the foresight to think far ahead. Given that our company is way far back in terms of technology where everything is still done almost manually. (yes it is manual if a staff still have to think thru and check if there is any glitches the computer might actually do)
I am not saying I am smart but I just happen to understand how the people around me works and behave. They are very predictable.
As much as i try to cover my ass, it do get burn sometime and I am getting burned at all sorts of places nowadays. Some do try to act smart and behave they know everything. Since we are all told to be independent, I might want to suggest to all of them to start looking through for things on their own in the office. Well the files are there, the system is there and the shared drive is available to anyone to access - what you waiting for? Go bend on your knees and start looking. Dont expect me to spoon feed you every month.
I don't think I am having a good relationship with anyone in the office. I may look happy but I am not really happy. I control my temper with the medication that I am taking otherwise - i would have lash out at anyone or worst - everyone.
I do feel like wanting to give up anytime now but I always tell myself to keep on going considering the dark clouds are gathering now. The future is uncertain. But however, one thing is certain. That I do want to go back to school.
Festivity mood is over and I look forward to the next holidays - Hajj and Christmas.
I did not really spend much time over the weekend with family as I was out visiting friends and relatives.
Once that was done and over with, I spend my Monday - Deepavali Hols ironing clothes and playing game.
I am currently engrossed with SIMS. I played it almost every evening now.
I really do not like the last week of the month as I have to work late and starts to rush out all last minute preparation before I can actually start doing what I am supposed to do (yes in finance / accounting - this is the way it is)
Oh - i have to work over the weekends for this week and I got a wedding reception to attend as well...sigh~ i wonder how i can manage that - it will work out eventually.
Since we are at the subject of work, recently something happen (there seems to be something that happen almost every other week)
I noticed that there were many areas that I am covering and I just do not have the time to cover all of it or if i do, I believe I am not doing it to the best of my ability.
I hate to leave unfinished tasks hanging over my head because it will haunt me again later.
Truly I am right.
A year ago, there is this client who proposed to my company to follow a certain process.
At that point of time, I was not really keen considering the volume and the follow up action that I have to do.
True enough a year later what I have thought before came true. Of course a year ago, i highlighted it to my in charge but I have to admit that there is a certain advantage to what we will implement for this client BUT there was a set back as well.
True enough the setback came to haunt me especially. Guess who is tasked to clear the mess? Yours Truly.
Frankly, I do not understand why some people just do not have the foresight to think far ahead. Given that our company is way far back in terms of technology where everything is still done almost manually. (yes it is manual if a staff still have to think thru and check if there is any glitches the computer might actually do)
I am not saying I am smart but I just happen to understand how the people around me works and behave. They are very predictable.
As much as i try to cover my ass, it do get burn sometime and I am getting burned at all sorts of places nowadays. Some do try to act smart and behave they know everything. Since we are all told to be independent, I might want to suggest to all of them to start looking through for things on their own in the office. Well the files are there, the system is there and the shared drive is available to anyone to access - what you waiting for? Go bend on your knees and start looking. Dont expect me to spoon feed you every month.
I don't think I am having a good relationship with anyone in the office. I may look happy but I am not really happy. I control my temper with the medication that I am taking otherwise - i would have lash out at anyone or worst - everyone.
I do feel like wanting to give up anytime now but I always tell myself to keep on going considering the dark clouds are gathering now. The future is uncertain. But however, one thing is certain. That I do want to go back to school.
Monday, October 27, 2008
Sunday, October 26, 2008
All Good Things Comes From God and All Evil Things is From Us.
There are certain times we feel that life is unfair to us. We curse and swear at the slightest unfairness that happens to us.
We cursed when
1. We are angry with our colleagues
2. We are quarrelling between husbands and wives
3. We are upset with our siblings
4. We feel that we have been treated unfairly
It takes certain level of understanding and patience to actually accept that whatever happens to us is a result of our actions for in Al Quran there is a verse from Surah An Nisaa
أَيْنَمَا تَكُونُواْ يُدْرِككُّمُ الْمَوْتُ وَلَوْ كُنتُمْ فِي بُرُوجٍ مُّشَيَّدَةٍ وَإِن تُصِبْهُمْ حَسَنَةٌ يَقُولُواْ هَـذِهِ مِنْ عِندِ اللّهِ وَإِن تُصِبْهُمْ سَيِّئَةٌ يَقُولُواْ هَـذِهِ مِنْ عِندِكَ قُلْ كُلًّ مِّنْ عِندِ اللّهِ فَمَا لِهَـؤُلاء الْقَوْمِ لاَ يَكَادُونَ يَفْقَهُونَ حَدِيثًا
مَّا أَصَابَكَ مِنْ حَسَنَةٍ فَمِنَ اللّهِ وَمَا أَصَابَكَ مِن سَيِّئَةٍ فَمِن نَّفْسِكَ وَأَرْسَلْنَاكَ لِلنَّاسِ رَسُولاً وَكَفَى بِاللّهِ شَهِيدًا
Which means:
Wherever you may be, death will overtake you - even though you be in towers raised high. "Yet, when a good thing happens to them, some [people] say, "This is from God," whereas when evil befalls them, they say, "This is from thee [O fellowman]!”
Asad
Say: "All is from God." What, then, is amiss with these people that they are in no wise near to grasping the truth of what they are told?
AND WE have sent thee [O Muhammad] as an apostle unto all mankind: and none can bear witness [thereto] as God does. Whatever good happens to thee is from God; and whatever evil befalls thee is from thyself.
Surah An Nisaa 4:78-79. Taken from www.islamicity.com
The verse clearly explains that All Good is from God and Evil is from Us.
Therefore, mom always tells me but usually i m the one who do not listen, that
1. Always be careful of what I say to others
2. Try to seek guidance from Allah if there is a need to decide on something
3. Pray often; for prayers is the fundamentals to keep us out of mischief.
4. Never blame God when our doa is not fulfilled; perhaps Allah has something better in store for us.
5. Always think of the good things that will come out of a certain situation; only then will it bear fruit.
Truly, it is not easy to have a good heart. Being young, egoistic (yes i am and how many of you can admit that? I dare to admit it ok!) and forever wanting to be at the forefront, I do feel envious when i see some of my friends who are far ahead than me.
BUT I always try to put myself in perspective. I always say that I am the first born and my parents will expect more from me.
As 2 of my siblings are still in school, they do need my contribution to the family not to mention that my grandma and aunt is now living with us.
They are never a burden in fact they should be considered as a Rahmat as Allah has instructed us to care for the elderly when they get old, never to raise our voice at them and to speak nicely to them.
Based on my own experience, however it is not easy to care for an elderly. My grandma is very much full of love and emotions. She watches everyone with glistening eyes. Each time anyone of us leaves the house, she insist that she must see the person off at the door despite her small steps that she took to reach the door.
Never has anyone of us burst at her antics. We respect and loved her too much to ignore her. As someone who helped my mom to bring me up, the values that she teaches me through her stories and life experiences taught me one thing - we must always be humble regardless the nature of the receiving party.
To give is better than to receive after all.
Hence it is with this guidance, that I gave freely to anyone who ask regardless of their nature. I may not have enough but i do have some to give away.
Financially, our family is alright i guess. We got no debts except for the forever housing loans to pay and dad and myself contribute most of the household expenses.
As a son-in-law, my dad has no qualms about grandma staying with us. However he seems agitated lately.
After talking to him, I realised that he is worried that what he might not have enough. I understand how he feels. We have to note that out of all my uncles and aunties only 1 or 2 contribute to the living expenses of grandma and aunt.
I am not venting this out of anger but i personally believe that the responsibility of an elderly parents falls to every single one of the children and not to be push aside to just 1 or 2 children.
I have this believe that since it is a responsibility entrusted by God to us, we must note that caring for an elderly will bring us great rewards be it now or after we have passed on.
My grandma has 11 children. Out of 11, 1 is disabled, my aunt who is with us now. Out of 10, 4 are men, 6 are women.
Out of the 6 women, if i were to access each individual financially income, i think only my mom and another aunt has good stable income. The rest are struggling.
Out of 4 men, 1 is jobless while 1 has 2 kids and struggling but he did contribute to the monthly medical expenses and he do ferry my grandma anywhere she wants to go as he drove a cab. The other one, gives my grandma a monthly allowance - i think about $100.00 or slightly more than that. While another one with 1 kid and a wife seems a bit far off to contribut emuch. Unless of course, my grandma tells me another story - the above is what grandma has told me before.
Someone in the family give the opinion that old people don't each much. I challenged them to care for the 2 of them. They were skinny when they came to my place now they gain weight and eat well.
Grandma eats 3 full meals a day.
Another thing that I would like to share is this.
It has been a long time my family ever went out since grandma stays with us. Occasionally my parents and us do want some time to be together. It is difficult for us and we don't want to bring grandma along with us because we will need 2 cabs to go out and we are not sure if grandma eats the food that we fancy or would like to be at - such as delifrance or hyatt or swensens.
None of my aunts and uncles will call my mom to ask if she needs help for the month. I think it is important to ask because my mom is taking care of their mother. A certain sense of muhibbah must be displayed out of courtesy. As long as the mother is alive, all children must share the responsibility.
These life experiences that is right in front of us teaches me on the term responsibility.
Responsibility to an elderly is a wajib. It has to be done.
For readers, I just would like to advise that care freely for an elderly, give freely to them. In turn, Allah will reward you.
But it does not come easy. You have to have patience and faith. Insya Allah all will turn out well.
We cursed when
1. We are angry with our colleagues
2. We are quarrelling between husbands and wives
3. We are upset with our siblings
4. We feel that we have been treated unfairly
It takes certain level of understanding and patience to actually accept that whatever happens to us is a result of our actions for in Al Quran there is a verse from Surah An Nisaa
أَيْنَمَا تَكُونُواْ يُدْرِككُّمُ الْمَوْتُ وَلَوْ كُنتُمْ فِي بُرُوجٍ مُّشَيَّدَةٍ وَإِن تُصِبْهُمْ حَسَنَةٌ يَقُولُواْ هَـذِهِ مِنْ عِندِ اللّهِ وَإِن تُصِبْهُمْ سَيِّئَةٌ يَقُولُواْ هَـذِهِ مِنْ عِندِكَ قُلْ كُلًّ مِّنْ عِندِ اللّهِ فَمَا لِهَـؤُلاء الْقَوْمِ لاَ يَكَادُونَ يَفْقَهُونَ حَدِيثًا
مَّا أَصَابَكَ مِنْ حَسَنَةٍ فَمِنَ اللّهِ وَمَا أَصَابَكَ مِن سَيِّئَةٍ فَمِن نَّفْسِكَ وَأَرْسَلْنَاكَ لِلنَّاسِ رَسُولاً وَكَفَى بِاللّهِ شَهِيدًا
Which means:
Wherever you may be, death will overtake you - even though you be in towers raised high. "Yet, when a good thing happens to them, some [people] say, "This is from God," whereas when evil befalls them, they say, "This is from thee [O fellowman]!”
Asad
Say: "All is from God." What, then, is amiss with these people that they are in no wise near to grasping the truth of what they are told?
AND WE have sent thee [O Muhammad] as an apostle unto all mankind: and none can bear witness [thereto] as God does. Whatever good happens to thee is from God; and whatever evil befalls thee is from thyself.
Surah An Nisaa 4:78-79. Taken from www.islamicity.com
The verse clearly explains that All Good is from God and Evil is from Us.
Therefore, mom always tells me but usually i m the one who do not listen, that
1. Always be careful of what I say to others
2. Try to seek guidance from Allah if there is a need to decide on something
3. Pray often; for prayers is the fundamentals to keep us out of mischief.
4. Never blame God when our doa is not fulfilled; perhaps Allah has something better in store for us.
5. Always think of the good things that will come out of a certain situation; only then will it bear fruit.
Truly, it is not easy to have a good heart. Being young, egoistic (yes i am and how many of you can admit that? I dare to admit it ok!) and forever wanting to be at the forefront, I do feel envious when i see some of my friends who are far ahead than me.
BUT I always try to put myself in perspective. I always say that I am the first born and my parents will expect more from me.
As 2 of my siblings are still in school, they do need my contribution to the family not to mention that my grandma and aunt is now living with us.
They are never a burden in fact they should be considered as a Rahmat as Allah has instructed us to care for the elderly when they get old, never to raise our voice at them and to speak nicely to them.
Based on my own experience, however it is not easy to care for an elderly. My grandma is very much full of love and emotions. She watches everyone with glistening eyes. Each time anyone of us leaves the house, she insist that she must see the person off at the door despite her small steps that she took to reach the door.
Never has anyone of us burst at her antics. We respect and loved her too much to ignore her. As someone who helped my mom to bring me up, the values that she teaches me through her stories and life experiences taught me one thing - we must always be humble regardless the nature of the receiving party.
To give is better than to receive after all.
Hence it is with this guidance, that I gave freely to anyone who ask regardless of their nature. I may not have enough but i do have some to give away.
Financially, our family is alright i guess. We got no debts except for the forever housing loans to pay and dad and myself contribute most of the household expenses.
As a son-in-law, my dad has no qualms about grandma staying with us. However he seems agitated lately.
After talking to him, I realised that he is worried that what he might not have enough. I understand how he feels. We have to note that out of all my uncles and aunties only 1 or 2 contribute to the living expenses of grandma and aunt.
I am not venting this out of anger but i personally believe that the responsibility of an elderly parents falls to every single one of the children and not to be push aside to just 1 or 2 children.
I have this believe that since it is a responsibility entrusted by God to us, we must note that caring for an elderly will bring us great rewards be it now or after we have passed on.
My grandma has 11 children. Out of 11, 1 is disabled, my aunt who is with us now. Out of 10, 4 are men, 6 are women.
Out of the 6 women, if i were to access each individual financially income, i think only my mom and another aunt has good stable income. The rest are struggling.
Out of 4 men, 1 is jobless while 1 has 2 kids and struggling but he did contribute to the monthly medical expenses and he do ferry my grandma anywhere she wants to go as he drove a cab. The other one, gives my grandma a monthly allowance - i think about $100.00 or slightly more than that. While another one with 1 kid and a wife seems a bit far off to contribut emuch. Unless of course, my grandma tells me another story - the above is what grandma has told me before.
Someone in the family give the opinion that old people don't each much. I challenged them to care for the 2 of them. They were skinny when they came to my place now they gain weight and eat well.
Grandma eats 3 full meals a day.
Another thing that I would like to share is this.
It has been a long time my family ever went out since grandma stays with us. Occasionally my parents and us do want some time to be together. It is difficult for us and we don't want to bring grandma along with us because we will need 2 cabs to go out and we are not sure if grandma eats the food that we fancy or would like to be at - such as delifrance or hyatt or swensens.
None of my aunts and uncles will call my mom to ask if she needs help for the month. I think it is important to ask because my mom is taking care of their mother. A certain sense of muhibbah must be displayed out of courtesy. As long as the mother is alive, all children must share the responsibility.
These life experiences that is right in front of us teaches me on the term responsibility.
Responsibility to an elderly is a wajib. It has to be done.
For readers, I just would like to advise that care freely for an elderly, give freely to them. In turn, Allah will reward you.
But it does not come easy. You have to have patience and faith. Insya Allah all will turn out well.
Updates
It has been 5 days since i last update the blog. Reason being, I am too busy and too occupied with my endless work.
We start with Wednesday.
It was work as usual for me but after work, Yati and I had to attend a dinner at Singapore Expo Hall 1. The Yellow Ribbon Project Appreciation Dinner.
As our company had made some donations to the project, we were allocated to 2 seats. Funny that the upper management did not want to go and had passed to us to go. I was seated among directors, general managers and what ever else is there. Yati and I chose to ignore them and enjoy ourselves.
Not much happening over Thursday and Friday except the fact that I started to issue cheques to pay for my bills. That's a first and I am wondering if it will pull through. I should have issued 1 first and see if my signature is valid.
However, i was looking forward to the weekend as it is a long weekend for me. Deepavali falls on Monday!
Saturday - went to Tity's, Suzy's and Yati's home. It was quite a schedule. Furthermore a member of our party had misled me to think that it would be just "us" kind of group so end up, i went out with 2 mak dara..hahahaaa
Rinah and Ros has graciously accompanied me to Suzy's and Yati's place.
There are pictures of course but as usual, i forgot to bring the USB along with me. (i am updating the blog from mom's home)
However, if you wish to see my picture i believe it would be available at Rinah's facebook profile. She has graciously tagged the pic to me. But then again, i dont think you all are missing out on anything.
I am still the same person except i have gained weight (AGAIN!)
Till then, I will update you all again as I have breakfast to devour now (Yes it Mcdonald's delivery) and i got a few houses to go again later. :)
Hugs
Edz
We start with Wednesday.
It was work as usual for me but after work, Yati and I had to attend a dinner at Singapore Expo Hall 1. The Yellow Ribbon Project Appreciation Dinner.
As our company had made some donations to the project, we were allocated to 2 seats. Funny that the upper management did not want to go and had passed to us to go. I was seated among directors, general managers and what ever else is there. Yati and I chose to ignore them and enjoy ourselves.
Not much happening over Thursday and Friday except the fact that I started to issue cheques to pay for my bills. That's a first and I am wondering if it will pull through. I should have issued 1 first and see if my signature is valid.
However, i was looking forward to the weekend as it is a long weekend for me. Deepavali falls on Monday!
Saturday - went to Tity's, Suzy's and Yati's home. It was quite a schedule. Furthermore a member of our party had misled me to think that it would be just "us" kind of group so end up, i went out with 2 mak dara..hahahaaa
Rinah and Ros has graciously accompanied me to Suzy's and Yati's place.
There are pictures of course but as usual, i forgot to bring the USB along with me. (i am updating the blog from mom's home)
However, if you wish to see my picture i believe it would be available at Rinah's facebook profile. She has graciously tagged the pic to me. But then again, i dont think you all are missing out on anything.
I am still the same person except i have gained weight (AGAIN!)
Till then, I will update you all again as I have breakfast to devour now (Yes it Mcdonald's delivery) and i got a few houses to go again later. :)
Hugs
Edz
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